Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Pushing the Reset Button

Made a huge mistake?  Just water under the bridge.  Screwed the pooch on your project?  No worries, it's all good.

It's called pushing the reset button - just pretend like it never happened and move on.

Except, of course, the Reset Button is a myth.

There is no going back.  There is no do over.  What's done is done and it cannot be erased as easily as deleting a document on your computer.

BUT.

But that doesn't mean you can't move on

To err is human.  To dwell on all of your past mistakes is...well that's a mistake.  You may not be able to push the reset button,  but that doesn't mean you can live your life weighed down by all of your misdeeds.

Balance. The answer is to find a balance between what you have done and how you can live with it.  For if you do not move forward, chances are you are moving backwards.

To err is human.  To learn from your mistakes is a step above.  To wallow in your own self pity is simply destructive.

Move on or move back.  There's no middle ground.  It's like a relationship.  It works the same way.  Either you are moving forward or you will stagnate into reverse.

Saying "we all make mistakes" certainly doesn't excuse poor behavior.  It is a fact, but a sad fact.  No one expects perfection, but there are lines that should not be crossed.  Yet here we are, crossing lines all the time.  And with no magic reset button either.

So what can I do?  I can wallow in self pity.  I can can pretend it never happened.  I can push the fake reset button.  But then I will have learned nothing,  Then I won't be a better person for it in a week, a month a year.

So instead, I will learn from it - I will try better next time.  I will work on myself to try and make sure it doesn't happen again.  Then, perhaps, I will be, arguably, a better person for it. 

So damn you magic Reset Button, damn you for not existing and making everything so easy.  But thank you too.

 Because, ultimately, easy doesn't make it better, just easier.

5 comments:

  1. So true!!! Having a reset button would just be a crutch to mess up and not be the best you can be... it's that struggle through mistakes that turn us into better people... definitely not easy, but worth it...
    (PS. Hi!)

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  2. This is why I laugh so hard whenever a judge says "The jury will disregard the statement" - not possible to undo the past.

    Sometimes easy is good though

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  3. 1. good to see you back.

    2. e-kvetcher is totally correct with regard to juries.

    3. good to see you back.

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  4. Onward and upward. You can't undo the past, but you can learn from it.

    Keep up the good work!

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